I know mother "  Train " Father, because mother loves dearly father. Especially for the moment, know he loves dearly him
People it has to be the left several pieces. The criticism article of the full position of full position, just the picture is swallowed in the criticism conference of the all day of all day, father
Plenty of meat and fish is the same, all is swallowed. And like mother this very light rain and wind "  Train " ,To father,
Can only be regarded as and made a dish and fried the bitter gourd clearly at most. Father finishes hearing "  Train " ,One is not refuted, two does not defend oneself, three
Do not insist on. Get back to the study alone. I follow to enter closely too. Skin in front of the desk as father sits
At the swivel chair, face of him clearly much gloomily. As the saying goes: The tree is afraid of peeling, people are afraid of being sad. I am thinking
,Have already lost in the society "  Face " Father,it think begin last " lining " in family
. Father is can't be more lost, even if father's existence outside equals zero, then he is my father. I
Say nothing, stand behind father. Father says nothing too, both hands cross on the chest. His appearance
It is calm, but must feel a pain in the heart very much. In more than 60 pieces of life in year, in the son of pit of the stomach again and again
Free and easy and seethe.

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Pride of the persons who neglect. I think, it is beautiful an important lesson in life for her, this lesson is irreplacable for much book knowledge. 
So, on those days, my early " forget " Give she arrange "  The thing " ,Never stingy her time, is never afraid we " open up virgin soil " , build room can influence study of her. 
She always holds the strong interest to this land. Unless this tree when it is at woods since piece is small, red wild fruit,at leap up if downing, for squirrels little chased to run, many scenes as if in the fairy tale. For liking the daughter with romantic literature, thoughts and feelings, this small forest land seems that there is the containing of many, she is very intoxicated to all these. I feel very glad in heart, a glad one daughter like me, start as to we house oneself understanding to build house to confine to how much does it save only, many can't speak the intension explained. However, in the course of building the room entirely, the relaxed and excited state that she is not in, I let her do some jobs not so romantic too once in a while, for example, lift the reinforcing bar, dig the soil, the nobody will hit the bitter work liking being done in the heart. 
I often think, it is sure to become daughter's strongest memory during the journey in life to build the experience of the house. Is not it exactly a source of the endless knowledge colourful life? 
I get ready to serve as nearly all roles needed to build the house oneself, worker, painter, plumber, porter and cleaner including buildering, designering, purchasing agenting, woodwork, electricianing, fitting up inside. This idea seems very crazy, however, I have already made the preparation on much technology, having bought some books related to building the room, how as the builder to have, woodwork about the law, electrician, wait a moment. 
I design, draw the blueprint by oneself. End the most of the corridor that I design the daughter's bedroom behind the sitting room, far apart nearly 20 meters with the principal bedroom, dining room, kitchen, in order to let her room, sitting room and dining room protect largest distance, there is the quietest environment. At the time of the design, the position orientation in every place of the house, every one are all kinds of all of us will hash; Moreover, often debate endlessly for some objections. The dispute regarding we are in the house design, the daughter also wrote as a university and applied for the thesis later, a president even shows in the letter, her article writes very interestingly in person. In the design of the bedroom, I design the area of the daughter's room painstakingly minimumly, the indoor wardrobe is minimum too. Though compared with other rooms a little bit smaller, will find in this sensitive spirit's clever smart drawing drawn from me soon, she forgives, understands my purpose very much too.   

The chance comes. For waiting to say, the chance can not never come. 
High to celebrate rosy clouds bring in a bowl of eggs, ask carefully: "Is it true on earth? " Li JianGuo takes over the chopsticks, lights the head and says: 
"Certainly true. The great revolution has come. " 
Li founds the state to just go to Beijing once taking up an official post. This music teacher has taken a mode of thinking similar to teaching, get the lesson ready first, make logic classroom lecture notes naturally and accord with, then,according to this pieces of lecture notes can operate with. He overlooks the floating clouds under the foot on the plane, there is suspending and moving feeling of illusion. President Li closes eyes, the mood is good. President Li has given a mark 94 for one's own mood, six fen deducted is his worry to Beijing trip. In any case, Beijing is so great, so many of singers, so long as has caught one, one, the company can produce too. Have, produce for profit, company even if operation stood up. General manager Li JianGuo's mood is good. 
Teacher of the previous music finds oneself too rash soon, inmature. He subtracts 90 fen of one's own mood soon after flying to Beijing. Remaining four fen is that scenery in Beijing is brought. The Great Wall is good, the Palace Museum is good, not much else. He can not get a thorough understanding why oneself remembers that got to Beijing to look for the singer to contract. Singer those where be people, immortal all, you touch get any they of whereaboutses with great difficulty, eyes were blinked, no, disappeared. This quarter child is in Sanya. They each have the good time speeding across the sky completely. General manager Li JianGuo stands on that central axis in front of Tian An-men, has scolded one sound of oneself " silly * " in Beijing native language just learnt ,How was it remembered? What is come to Beijing to do? It is to do all people to become a teacher pedantically. 
A chit of a girl just engaged in this profession from the large southwest gully has met him. Age much older than his student. This " new generation " The singer quotes a piece of astronomical figure, if not general manager Li JianGuo props up by the classroom experience of several decades, it is sure to be senseless. This super singer not entering the space yet says beating the dining table: "The same, this complete price. " This singer has nowadays spoken of the most much more popular singers with President Li subsequently, it is cordial, warm that the tone is, it seems to be all whole family, it is with reason to dip in and kiss, either the sister-in-law is exactly cousin's sister. She talk other several singer that engaged in this profession just also, tone very much authority of her, send completely in a few words. " she is not all right "  ," he is not all right "  ," she is problematic "  ,Like that. Later on little younger sister in this large southwest cut down half of the price, that is still a group of astronomical figure. President Li give her insert dish courteous very, pour water, mouth deal with and say: "We go back to prove again. " But this person rise up into yet it let him not rested assured singers super of space,"lose " ," audiences in the whole country generally like my song "  ,The letter which she received is in the Asian Games Village "  Have installed half a room "  Woolen cloth. Talk about this share and have President Li and just chance it in words, it is making a tourist trip at public expense that right acts as Beijing trip this time. JianGuo Li general manager hear from a person of hers, facing toward these little singer boast outrageously bold very too, blow to and is later on stupefied even oneself, where is the sister of cousin of Zhang Yimou's mother or four aunts of his? Oh mother. President Li Budweiser blows extremely delightedly, a hotel will not know the way. Beijingers say right, can not " all find the north. " Can't " find the north "  ,This words are good, is absolutely a kind of the highest realm. 
Coming back home, President Li's nostril bled, it is also discredited to smell of fish. 
A lot of things are set about from the distant place, has found the solution at one's side finally. What go to Beijing to do? Is not it the major part of the wrong? Do not make a fool of oneself? A method that President Li defeats by a surprise move is from starting with at one's side. President Li has drawn up an advertisement personally to the evening paper. The advertisement awakens the deaf once coming up: "Have you missed a star's addiction? Yes, please make a phone call to me. " President Li waits the first-class technical force of record company of wind and assures you with season, " so long as you can open one's mouth "  ,You can see one on one's own tape special edition and MTV "  You who are strange "  ,In short, through Ji HouFeng's packaging, you will become " in the moustache of China " With " Madonna of China "  . 
The result of the advertisement is really surprising. President Li has become a teacher for many years so, has really shut off oneself from society. See the advertisement everyday, is equal to looking in vain. How to say on the book? "The modern's life is the continuity of the advertisement. " This words are to extremely. Advertisement step on, go out, HouFeng Ji gate of Company crowd come large stretch of " in the China moustache " really With " Madonna of China "  . Ji HouFeng's gate groups of stars are assembled. " star "  Wash by microphone again and again the gentle,it is turn one's head look at moon have and the weighed down with anxieties again and again camera not to facing toward. People are not actually people, the electronic technology " editor " With " deal with "  After crossing, people will not really know oneself. These hanker after star people of dream change very quickly, " younger sister you hold in the bow, I leave on the bank, the elder brother "  ,They " follow you slowly and know the result slowly " ,"this piece woman(  Every) Unusual "  ,Will " never go to the battle field after catching the jackals and wolves "  ,They " love you for being repentant " ," love you for liking getting the pit of the stomach and aching "  ,They " wait for you for 10,000 years " ,They " the rote remain unchanged " ,And " lonely "  Make them to be so getting beautiful, they " has to take you by hand, next life move together " ,This success "  Artificial respiration "  Make HouFeng Ji breathe out one breath. 
But Li can't be satisfied, such a game just plays, it is not the real commerce, because it can't bring the real profit. However, this game makes President Li hold the most basic spirit of this era, young people are doing more or less "  Star's dream "  ,People are exactly"  The star " And excited, and infatuated. People need real star, let him love, let him worship, let him fall over each other to draw the wallet. For the star, the modern wants the celestial being wants to die. What good people, what a fertile star's market it is! The popular feelings are available. The star is only the star, is the motive force of creating the profit. 
But, where is the star? 
Li JianGuo accompanies Lin Feng to eat a traditional Sichuan-style hot pot. Lin Feng treasures the throat, it is so pungent to eat. Li JianGuo says with a smile: ",that's all, where do you also want to do Domingo? " Lin Feng tastes several. Taste this Lin wind on "  The ones that are in charge of his mother "  ,taking each piece pore can last tenor. Feng and Li Lin found the state of the same class, sound practise coming, go, come out, on the high pitch just as the the cock one heralds the break of day, the neck is longer and longer, but the breath is weaker and weaker. But people are clever, why mix to the propaganda minister of the school after leaving the school, a little the donkey head, to the mouth. Lin Feng must still train larynx frequently, the throat sound can lower the low one while speaking, pay attention to the appearance with clear articulation and a mellow and full tone very much. Li founds the state these years stuffily inside the primary school, disappear and gain fame and fortune, does not just bother to communicate between classmates. Graduate of Alma Mater graduate many, appear several third-class 4 popular singer shedding maybe too these years. Lin Feng has been in the Alma Mater all the time, will know some. Feng Lin put down chopsticks, make shoulder of JianGuo Li, say loudly: "Have you become the tycoon, brother? " Li JianGuo smiles, says: "So-so. Mix. " Li JianGuo says looking for thing and Lin Feng of the popular singer. Lin Feng vomits the spinach in the mouth, says: "What is looked for? I am that 246 of each week is who goes to practise, this ready-made one? " Li JianGuo says: "Young man, this of mine is business, not art, who listens to the bel canto this year? Who listens to us shouting blindly as hanging devils? " Lin Feng says: "Popular I knew, the grand prix of the Karaoka disc inside the school last year, I won. " Li JianGuo says: "You will work as the secretary while passing for two years, will sprain to jump going, what decorum. " Lin Feng blinks, thinks, says: "Too. " Li JianGuo says: "You connection wide, graduate these years old a light one have, begin to crop up? " Lin Feng says: "Why seek something far and wide when it is within reach? The school is many, little tadpoles are all sparkling under water, how many is dragged for? " Li JianGuo says: "That is not all right, have not graduated yet. " Lin Feng strikes Li JianGuo's shoulder again, this one seems meaningful to strike. Lin Feng says: "Decrepit and behind the times. These present little tadpoles are not two foolish sons at that time of ours, know reading once getting late on day, affair industry. These little tadpoles have all kinds of attentions, but there is one, every one is anxious to get rich, anxious to be famous, seem to graduate from the world on to the end. " Li JianGuo says: "No. " Lin Feng uses the small dining table of finger, says: "Believe this propaganda minister of me. Anxious to get rich, anxious and famous, one little tadpole take off tail yet, one anxious beat on the bank. " Li JianGuo says half-genuine, half-shamly: "Then the minister drags for several for me. " The wind has held back the expression in the forest, say: "That is not all right. I am still a sesame official anyhow, it influences the image of party to spread out. " Li has founded the state and held back and smiled, say: "Say at will, certainly not all right. The gentleman loves the wealth, the ones that fetched are one. " The wind signs in the forest, it is too supernatural not to answer yet, " this group of his mothers' little tadpole. "   

self-sacrifice "  (2)

A woman Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces is abandoned by the husband, has to apply to psychologist for help. She complains the husband tearfully and maltreats it by nature, the husband never cares about her, there are a lot of women outside. He loses the money which buys the food on the gambling house completely. He often goes home at dead of night, drink dead drunkly, go home, curse her, beat up her. Just on Christmas Day eve, he puts wife and child and ignores, go out alone. As to the experience of this lady, the psychologist quite feels and sympathizes with, but further understood, sympathy will be puzzled by substituting by the strong one: This lady stands and maltreats it for more than 20 years, divorce with the husband twice, reunion of couple after separation or divorce twice, said good-bye and become reconciled many times in the middle. The doctor has spent two months, help her to get rid of the agony abandoned by the husband. One morning, 


As soon as she comes into doctor's office, she announces excitedly: "My husband has come back! He made a phone call to me last night, said that wanted to see me. We have just met, he begs me to allow him to go home. I see he wants to repent, and just as turned into a person, so allow him to come back. " The doctor reminds her, this kind of situation has taken place more than once, does she want to let the tragedy performed constantly? What's more during this period of time, does not she have a good time too? But the patient answers: "But I love him, who can refuse the love? " If the doctor wants to further discuss with her what is " real love " ,The lady can very smooth the fire, even determine to stop treating.

What is it about this on earth? The doctor makes great efforts to recall all details treated. When he remembers the patient describes the situation maltreated by the husband for many years, seem to enjoy a certain pleasant sensation from maltreating. The doctor can't help thinking of: This woman stands maltreating having neither enmity nor repentance, even perfectly willing, extremely probably that she originally likes this kind of situation. Do it in this way what motive does it based on? She is glad to stand maltreating because because she is pursuing a certain ethical sense of superiority in all one's life? In other words, though the situation is difficult, she experiences a kind of sense of superiority. The husband running away from home answers excessively, while asking her pardon, she changes into a mistreater from the person maltreated, enjoy pleasant sensation maltreated. The begging for pity of the husband lets her feel superior fully, what she experienced is the happiness of persons who retaliate against. Usually, such women in during one's childhood, suffer too diagraceful. For make agony compensate, they think morals a cut above other people, and and apologize, from regret of others, enjoy pleasant sensation retaliated against. The shame which they suffer and the more maltreating, the stronger the psychology with superior self inductance is, get more emotion from this too "  Nourish " . They do not need to obtain more kind treatments, because lose the prerequisite retaliated against. In order to make the motive that retaliates against more rational, they must experience the feeling of suffering injury, make special psychological need be extended. The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly maltreat and regarding as the real love standing, just they seek to retaliate against the prerequisite of pleasant sensation, the motive standing being maltreated is from hating instead of loving.

The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly have a kind of wrong idea: Their fond dream, it is the real love to regard self-sacrifice as. In fact, their subconscious contains more hating, wish eagerly to be given vent to and compensated. Referred to that pastor in front of us, he would liked to sacrifice everything for family, thought one's own motive is totally to think about family. His real purpose, but for maintaining the self- beautiful image. We claim to think about others sometimes, may be just in order to escape responsibility, satisfied own hope. Everything that we do is to come from the personal will, but key motive meets the self- demand, no matter what thing is done for others, perhaps it is for gaining private interests. For example, sometimes, parents tell children: "You should thank all we have done for you. " At this moment, can certainly say, such parents lack real love to the child. The egoism and altruism are totally different, but we often lump together. We love someone wholeheartedly, because we need to love others; We bear children, because ourselves want children; We love one's own child, lie in we wish eagerly to become the parents full of love. Real love, can make people change, in one expand oneself in essence, but not pure self-sacrifice. Real love, it is self- complete that can enable. Love is selfish in a certain meaning, the final pursuit is the self-perfection. Certainly, whether selfish or not, not a standard of judging the love, the only judgement standard is Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale: Love - --Pursue the maturity of intelligence forever, besides this, not all real love. 

self-sacrifice "  (1)

Unreasonable Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces offering and destructive nutriment, all have a common characteristic: Israel of persons who offer "  Love " Do the shop sign, hope to meet one's own need, never treat maturity of the other side's intelligence as the same thing. There is a pastor, his wife suffers from chronic depression, the two sons university drops out of school, occupied with nothing all day. The pastor has to lead the whole family to accept the psychotherapy. Family have all become the patient, the pastor's worries can be well imagined, but he does not think family's condition relates to oneself, he says in anger: "I do all strength to look after them, help them to solve various problems. I have just woken up every day, will worry about their thing soon, will I do still not enough? " Indeed, in order to meet the requirement of wife and son, the pastor may be said that taxes one's ingenuity. Children should learn to support oneself, he 


But keep everything in one's own hands: Buy the new car for them, pay the insurance premium for them. He and family live in the suburb, he himself dislikes going down town, does not like listening to the opera either, but each weekend, he will accompany the wife to go down town to listen to opera or see the film - --Though he will doze off once sitting in the theatre. His working burden is heavy, but so long as came back home, will become the good husband and good father. For example, he insists that tidies up the room for wife and son, because they never sweep the hygiene, the pastor is as in a conscientious and down-to-earth manner as family's nurse. I ask this pastor: "You work hard for them all day, do not think hard? " He says: "Certainly arduous, but do I have other things to choose? I love them, it is impossible to leave them alone. They have something to need, I satisfy them as much as possible. I can't let them down. Perhaps I can not do so cleverly enough, it is as husband and father, I have reasons to give them more love and care. "

This pastor's father, was a small and famous scholar that year, but its moral character was not praise-worthy: Often get drunk, dally with women, totally ignore family's feeling. Pastor's conduct to father abhor, has swear to become a person different from father since childhood, full of love to family constantly. In order to consolidate the ideal image in the mind, he does not allow oneself to have any unrestrained, immoral behaviors. Join in the pastor trade, is based on this kind of consideration too. Make so many efforts, but make family fragile and helpless in the end, this and original imagination is far from each other, make him unable to understand naturally. In the past, he always called the wife " my little cat " ,Son asking two to grow up "  My baby "  . Things will develop in the opposite when they become extreme, he has already exceeded the rational range to family's love. But he says puzzledly: "Even if I am stemming from father's comtempt and resistance correctly to family's love, does that have anything wrong? Should not I be as responsible like him? " He should realize: Love is a kind of extremely complicated behavior, not only needing needs to require mental skill even more diligently. The pastor avoids the person that becomes such as father, this kind of idea and extreme behavior caused from this firmly, make him lose the elasticity of the love. Love excessive, would be better, like still; But offer simply while deserving and refusing, not kind, but injure. Afford to interfere with others' affairs, this is to the abuse loved. The pastor should realize, let family obtain health, must permit their self-respect to regard for oneself, society looks after. Put roles in a correct place, can't be absolutely obedient to family, express the anger, discontented with and the expectation appropriately, this is beneficial to family's health. I have said, love, does not accept unprincipledly, include essential conflict, resolute refusal, severe criticism too definitely.

Under to instruct me, pastor ape sedulously no longer, punish house work, sweep the hygiene for wife and son. The son stands by and does nothing to the daily odd job, will let him lose the temper greatly too. He no longer pays the insurance premium of the car for them, but let them bear by oneself. Sometimes, he no longer accompanies the wife to watch the opera in city, but let her go by car alone. He acts" the bad husband " to a certain extent , " bad father "  Role,but not respond to every plea. He in the past behavior, with self-indulged to for the starting point, but has never lost ability of love no doubt, this becomes motive power that he changes oneself too. As to his change, wife and son are originally very discontented, but the situation will change in the near future: A son gets back to the university to study in, another son has found the job, also rent the apartment alone outside. The wife experiences the independent advantage too, soul grows up from this acquisition. Pastor has improved working efficiency greatly, has experienced real happiness in life.

This pastor's love not appropriate, has been close to the overbearing edge maltreated. Maltreat overbearingly and is maltreated overbearingly, all relate to the demand of the sex, association of the sex. No matter others suffer hardships, or let oneself suffer hardships, the patient will experience a certain physiological pleasant sensation. At spiritual pathology, pure sex maltreat and maltreat phenomenon to be extremely rare, mostly maltreat socially overbearingly and is maltreated overbearingly, its harmfulness is more serious. The patient always wants to injure the other side ceaselessly in the human Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale communication related to sex, or is injured by the other side.