self sacrifice
Опубликовано 7 March 2009 06:17
self-sacrifice " (2)
A woman Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces is abandoned by the husband, has to apply to psychologist for help. She complains the husband tearfully and maltreats it by nature, the husband never cares about her, there are a lot of women outside. He loses the money which buys the food on the gambling house completely. He often goes home at dead of night, drink dead drunkly, go home, curse her, beat up her. Just on Christmas Day eve, he puts wife and child and ignores, go out alone. As to the experience of this lady, the psychologist quite feels and sympathizes with, but further understood, sympathy will be puzzled by substituting by the strong one: This lady stands and maltreats it for more than 20 years, divorce with the husband twice, reunion of couple after separation or divorce twice, said good-bye and become reconciled many times in the middle. The doctor has spent two months, help her to get rid of the agony abandoned by the husband. One morning,
As soon as she comes into doctor's office, she announces excitedly: "My husband has come back! He made a phone call to me last night, said that wanted to see me. We have just met, he begs me to allow him to go home. I see he wants to repent, and just as turned into a person, so allow him to come back. " The doctor reminds her, this kind of situation has taken place more than once, does she want to let the tragedy performed constantly? What's more during this period of time, does not she have a good time too? But the patient answers: "But I love him, who can refuse the love? " If the doctor wants to further discuss with her what is " real love " ,The lady can very smooth the fire, even determine to stop treating.
What is it about this on earth? The doctor makes great efforts to recall all details treated. When he remembers the patient describes the situation maltreated by the husband for many years, seem to enjoy a certain pleasant sensation from maltreating. The doctor can't help thinking of: This woman stands maltreating having neither enmity nor repentance, even perfectly willing, extremely probably that she originally likes this kind of situation. Do it in this way what motive does it based on? She is glad to stand maltreating because because she is pursuing a certain ethical sense of superiority in all one's life? In other words, though the situation is difficult, she experiences a kind of sense of superiority. The husband running away from home answers excessively, while asking her pardon, she changes into a mistreater from the person maltreated, enjoy pleasant sensation maltreated. The begging for pity of the husband lets her feel superior fully, what she experienced is the happiness of persons who retaliate against. Usually, such women in during one's childhood, suffer too diagraceful. For make agony compensate, they think morals a cut above other people, and and apologize, from regret of others, enjoy pleasant sensation retaliated against. The shame which they suffer and the more maltreating, the stronger the psychology with superior self inductance is, get more emotion from this too " Nourish " . They do not need to obtain more kind treatments, because lose the prerequisite retaliated against. In order to make the motive that retaliates against more rational, they must experience the feeling of suffering injury, make special psychological need be extended. The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly maltreat and regarding as the real love standing, just they seek to retaliate against the prerequisite of pleasant sensation, the motive standing being maltreated is from hating instead of loving.
The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly have a kind of wrong idea: Their fond dream, it is the real love to regard self-sacrifice as. In fact, their subconscious contains more hating, wish eagerly to be given vent to and compensated. Referred to that pastor in front of us, he would liked to sacrifice everything for family, thought one's own motive is totally to think about family. His real purpose, but for maintaining the self- beautiful image. We claim to think about others sometimes, may be just in order to escape responsibility, satisfied own hope. Everything that we do is to come from the personal will, but key motive meets the self- demand, no matter what thing is done for others, perhaps it is for gaining private interests. For example, sometimes, parents tell children: "You should thank all we have done for you. " At this moment, can certainly say, such parents lack real love to the child. The egoism and altruism are totally different, but we often lump together. We love someone wholeheartedly, because we need to love others; We bear children, because ourselves want children; We love one's own child, lie in we wish eagerly to become the parents full of love. Real love, can make people change, in one expand oneself in essence, but not pure self-sacrifice. Real love, it is self- complete that can enable. Love is selfish in a certain meaning, the final pursuit is the self-perfection. Certainly, whether selfish or not, not a standard of judging the love, the only judgement standard is Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale: Love - --Pursue the maturity of intelligence forever, besides this, not all real love.
A woman Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces is abandoned by the husband, has to apply to psychologist for help. She complains the husband tearfully and maltreats it by nature, the husband never cares about her, there are a lot of women outside. He loses the money which buys the food on the gambling house completely. He often goes home at dead of night, drink dead drunkly, go home, curse her, beat up her. Just on Christmas Day eve, he puts wife and child and ignores, go out alone. As to the experience of this lady, the psychologist quite feels and sympathizes with, but further understood, sympathy will be puzzled by substituting by the strong one: This lady stands and maltreats it for more than 20 years, divorce with the husband twice, reunion of couple after separation or divorce twice, said good-bye and become reconciled many times in the middle. The doctor has spent two months, help her to get rid of the agony abandoned by the husband. One morning,
As soon as she comes into doctor's office, she announces excitedly: "My husband has come back! He made a phone call to me last night, said that wanted to see me. We have just met, he begs me to allow him to go home. I see he wants to repent, and just as turned into a person, so allow him to come back. " The doctor reminds her, this kind of situation has taken place more than once, does she want to let the tragedy performed constantly? What's more during this period of time, does not she have a good time too? But the patient answers: "But I love him, who can refuse the love? " If the doctor wants to further discuss with her what is " real love " ,The lady can very smooth the fire, even determine to stop treating.
What is it about this on earth? The doctor makes great efforts to recall all details treated. When he remembers the patient describes the situation maltreated by the husband for many years, seem to enjoy a certain pleasant sensation from maltreating. The doctor can't help thinking of: This woman stands maltreating having neither enmity nor repentance, even perfectly willing, extremely probably that she originally likes this kind of situation. Do it in this way what motive does it based on? She is glad to stand maltreating because because she is pursuing a certain ethical sense of superiority in all one's life? In other words, though the situation is difficult, she experiences a kind of sense of superiority. The husband running away from home answers excessively, while asking her pardon, she changes into a mistreater from the person maltreated, enjoy pleasant sensation maltreated. The begging for pity of the husband lets her feel superior fully, what she experienced is the happiness of persons who retaliate against. Usually, such women in during one's childhood, suffer too diagraceful. For make agony compensate, they think morals a cut above other people, and and apologize, from regret of others, enjoy pleasant sensation retaliated against. The shame which they suffer and the more maltreating, the stronger the psychology with superior self inductance is, get more emotion from this too " Nourish " . They do not need to obtain more kind treatments, because lose the prerequisite retaliated against. In order to make the motive that retaliates against more rational, they must experience the feeling of suffering injury, make special psychological need be extended. The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly maltreat and regarding as the real love standing, just they seek to retaliate against the prerequisite of pleasant sensation, the motive standing being maltreated is from hating instead of loving.
The persons who suffer from abuse overbearingly have a kind of wrong idea: Their fond dream, it is the real love to regard self-sacrifice as. In fact, their subconscious contains more hating, wish eagerly to be given vent to and compensated. Referred to that pastor in front of us, he would liked to sacrifice everything for family, thought one's own motive is totally to think about family. His real purpose, but for maintaining the self- beautiful image. We claim to think about others sometimes, may be just in order to escape responsibility, satisfied own hope. Everything that we do is to come from the personal will, but key motive meets the self- demand, no matter what thing is done for others, perhaps it is for gaining private interests. For example, sometimes, parents tell children: "You should thank all we have done for you. " At this moment, can certainly say, such parents lack real love to the child. The egoism and altruism are totally different, but we often lump together. We love someone wholeheartedly, because we need to love others; We bear children, because ourselves want children; We love one's own child, lie in we wish eagerly to become the parents full of love. Real love, can make people change, in one expand oneself in essence, but not pure self-sacrifice. Real love, it is self- complete that can enable. Love is selfish in a certain meaning, the final pursuit is the self-perfection. Certainly, whether selfish or not, not a standard of judging the love, the only judgement standard is Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale: Love - --Pursue the maturity of intelligence forever, besides this, not all real love.
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